I’m just really good at lying.

    • Stiffy@lemmy.worldOP
      3·
      2 days ago

      I do. Trust me, I do. No matter what happened or happens, I will give a fuck. I’ll give 3 fucks. I’m not pressuring you to tell me anything. Hell, you can say “fuck off” and block me iyl, I’m just saying that I do care. It’s not kind to make assumptions.

      • SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world
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        2 days ago

        Sorry, I was addressing a metaphorical “you,” not you the OP. Thanks for the offer, tho. I’m unfortunately at a point in my life where it’s just too late to bother anymore. I was just venting at those who could’ve helped when it would’ve accomplished something significant.

        • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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          1 day ago

          I was abandoned wholly since I was very young. Tried for years to get “the people who could’ve helped” to help, even just listen, but, you know how that goes. From the age of about 27 to 34, I didn’t even have a single friend; I was truly and absolutely alone. I had my strongest period of growth then. It was severely painful, but I came out better than I started. How?

          When you have no one to rely on, you must learn how to cope within yourself.

          Everyone goes through stuff right? The key is in knowing ourselves well, the how’s and why’s of our personal being, while maintaining proper self esteem internally. Then, you can know how to best help yourself through it. It’s a pain management of sorts. Once one knows themselves, they can know how to care for themselves in times of struggle/angst/lonely, or whatever.

          Should you have a support system? Yes, and I’m sorry that you don’t. I think all humans need themselves a support system, it’s essential. But, when you don’t have one in external life, you gotta create one inside. You’ll drown otherwise.

          Gotta heal from “those who could’ve helped” because firstly, fuck them, but then you gotta help yourself alone it seems eh? If that’s the reality, feel your feelings and give yourself the love you need, and get on with learning your coping.

          Life sucks, I’m sorry it sucks. Coping is one of those things that is simple to explain, but difficult to implent, not only from my own experience, but I’ve been in enough years of therapy/groups, it’s common for folks to struggle to use their silly coping skills. But it helps immensely to have the knowledge and skills ready for the worst kind of days. Take care

          • SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world
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            2 days ago

            Well, I’ve already fucked myself so I don’t see the point in stopping my masterbation habit now. Sorry if that’s not what you were hoping for.

            • Stiffy@lemmy.worldOP
              1·
              2 days ago

              No, no don’t stop. It’s literally the only coping mechanism that I have that doesn’t include getting high. It’s nice. Honestly we need all the coping mechanisms we can get that don’t cost money. Keep doin’ what you’re doin’ if it works for you!

              • SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world
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                1 day ago

                My coping mechanism is being (or at least attempting to be) a wiseass. One of those “if you don’t laugh, you cry” things, I guess. That’s what my prior response was meant to be - a funny play on your hope that I wasn’t planning to “do anything to myself.” I’m doing something to myself, alright - just not what you were implying.